Manipulation and Mess

There is a certain kind of person who enjoys trying to get others to do their bidding, not by intelligent and adult discussion / persuasion, but by simple manipulation. I have thematically referred to this earlier in the blog with the “I am only making plans for Nigel” theme. I have been on the receiving end of some of these “cunning plans” through the years in which things have been discussed for me, without my inclusion, and then presented to me as something of a fait accompli. There is a certain kind of person who would maintain that this is good management practice, I would say that it is quasi-forceful manipulation.

It Toltec terms this is defined as sorcery.

As such sorcery is a much more common practice than people believe. It does not need a wand, or a mantra, or a magic potion. It is simply trying to get others to do bidding in a deceitful, underhand, leveraged and forced manner, that for example might be a carrot or a stick. Or it could be putting a horse’s head in someone’s bed to make them an offer they cannot refuse.

If the intended manipulatee doesn’t allow themselves to me manipulated in can precipitate an almighty mess. Something which the manipulator might be unable to clean up. They do not for one minute imagine that they have to clean up the mess.

For example, I have no idea how I might be able to help the plumber get out of the hole he has dug for himself. It is not a huge hole but if he continues to dig, it could get very deep quite quickly. If he does not know it is a hole, there is a problem.

I mentioned earlier that I worked in pastoral care and was able to negotiate people credit, or benefit of the doubt, if they were struggling when it came to examiner’s meetings. Most people were straight but there were a few who tried to pull a fast one. In one case I ended up speaking to specialist police officers who were asking me for a hint as to whether to close a case or not. I drew their attention to the fact that the alleged incident was timed exactly with exams. They dropped the case.

In the pastoral care role, I had to deal with a whole number of messes most of which arose from attempts at manipulation in one way or another. Many students had been messed up by parents. You might be surprised how many parents got divorced the moment junior went away to university. They had been putting on a show for junior, who sensed this and had it proven to them by circumstance in the first term at university. People can justify a whole bunch of stuff AND imagine that it is wise and intelligent. We will stay together for junior.

In the case in the video previous, Uther wanted to dip his wick so to speak and then with the help of Merlin manipulated things. This kicked of a whole chain of events subsequently. For one night of wick dipping a massive and ongoing mess ensued.

It seems to me that I might over the next few days or so delve into the practises of sorcery or in other words, manipulation.

It is an area of human folly that gives rise to many of our television programmes, from Dallas to East Enders.