Shooting the messenger – στέργει γὰρ οὐδεὶς ἄγγελον κακῶν ἐπῶν

From Wikipedia

Shooting the messenger

“Shooting the messenger” is a metaphoric phrase used to describe the act of blaming the bearer of bad news.

Until the advent of modern telecommunication, messages were usually delivered by human envoys. For example, in war, a messenger would be sent from one camp to another. If the message was unfitting, the receiver might blame the messenger for such bad news and take their anger out on them.

History

An analogy of the phrase can come from the breaching of an unwritten code of conduct in war, in which a commanding officer was expected to receive and send back emissaries or diplomatic envoys sent by the enemy unharmed. During the early Warring States period of China, the concept of chivalry and virtue prevented the executions of messengers sent by opposing sides.

An early literary citing of “shooting the messenger” is in Plutarch’s Lives: “The first messenger, that gave notice of Lucullus’ coming was so far from pleasing Tigranes that, he had his head cut off for his pains; and no man dared to bring further information. Without any intelligence at all, Tigranes sat while war was already blazing around him, giving ear only to those who flattered him”.

A related sentiment was expressed in Antigone by Sophocles as “no one loves the messenger who brings bad news” or “no man delights in the bearer of bad news” (Greek: στέργει γὰρ οὐδεὶς ἄγγελον κακῶν ἐπῶν).

The sentiment that one should not shoot the messenger was expressed by Shakespeare in Henry IV, Part 2 (1598) and in Antony and Cleopatra: Cleopatra threatens to treat the messenger’s eyes as balls when told Antony has married another, eliciting the response “Gracious madam, I that do bring the news made not the match.”

The term also applied to a town crier, an officer of the court who made public pronouncements in the name of the ruling monarch, and often including bad news. Harming a town crier was considered treason.

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From Urban Dictionary

shoot the messenger

To get angry at a person who delivers bad news.

Usually, the person delivering the news has no idea about what is going on.

An example of “shoot the messenger”

Bob: Sorry, but I think you wet your pants.

Jim: No I didn’t you freaking **** (proceeds to get angry at Bob).

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Shoot the Messenger

A party game where you take the last three people you messaged, and the group chooses one thread to be read out loud, unless you use your veto

“Let’s play Shoot the Messenger”

“Okay, you first”

“Alright, my last three convos are with Alex, Will, and Jill”

“I choose the Jill convo”

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Don’t shoot the messenger

A term that is used to basically tell you “please don’t get mad at me for saying this.”

“Hey bro, don’t shoot the messenger here, but I think my car might be out of gas.”