One of the most difficult things in respect of Karma is figuring out when not to interfere. This is because interfering can stop people from learning the lesson which is due them. Altruism however, points at trying to mitigate the suffering of others; yet all too often a “helping hand” simply delays what a being needs to learn. By apparently preventing the suffering in the moment, it can actually be prolonging it.
It is not easy to ascertain when someone has Karmic learning to do. The only reliable pointer is recurrence. If a person keeps on doing the same thing and does not learn from it because others “help out”, rather than acting as a salve, that assistance, prolongs. A recurring pattern is more likely than not something Karmic and is by way of unfinished business.
It is never easy watching someone get “punched in the head” by life, yet sometimes this is exactly what is needed. Putting a glove on can appear to soften the blow yet this means that more blows are needed for the same lesson to be learned.
The desire to assist or ameliorate somebody else’s experience often comes about because of a “but for the grace of God there go I” feeling. There is something about the situation which strikes a chord of recognition. Deep down the lesson being learned is one which the being seeking to help knows is awaiting them, unless they change their ways. So they seek to mitigate the outcome of something which the world is mirroring for them. The experience which they are observing is a little too close for comfort.
Watching somebody else’s Karma can inform as to the causal consequence of one’s own actions. One can see mirrored the effect of similar causes currently being played out in one’s own life. Sometimes it is a reminder of lessons which one has already, sometimes painfully, learned; perhaps echoes of a past behaviour are surfacing again and one is given a timely reminder. Things in the mirror often reflect that which is too close for comfort for us. This is a good thing and should a situation cause discomfort, then it is a sure sign that there is some learning in and around such circumstance.
If one is serious about working with Karma, no matter how tempting it might be, Karmic challenges must be seized and not put off, nor should “help” always be accepted. If the situation is beyond current capacity, then help is OK. If laziness is at work, then help simply puts off the scheduled learning.
The motivations for interfering are many and manifold. Some of these are pure, others are not. When a situation unfolds in which one is able to assist it is always wise to be honest about the motive, for so doing. Many like to be painted hero. This in itself is a cause for subsequent effect.
In many but not all cases, people have to learn the hard way. Interfering actually prevents learning. It in effect “steals” someone’s lesson away from them!
Which is more compassionate allowing someone to learn naturally or interfering and mitigating?